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The Art of Combining Emotional Intelligence and Mindfulness

The Art of Combining Emotional Intelligence and Mindfulness

Can emotional intelligence and mindfulness help us to appreciate life and create valued relationships? Our careers place so many demands on our time and attention. This can leave us to sometimes feel that we are not truly connecting with ourselves, our emotions or allow us to be mindful in different work situations. This can also be true in our personal lives.

Has life got so busy that we can’t stop to press the pause button and allow us to touch into our positive emotions and be mindful? To allow ourselves to take a deep breath, smell the roses or express appreciation for the great work that employees achieved on bringing a job in before its deadline? Connecting with self and others is an on-going responsibility in both our work and personal life. Without this connection tasks can become mundane and less rewarding, for all concerned. It can also lead to decreased production and higher turnover of staff in an organisation.

Taking a step back from the busyness of a day, to truly acknowledge and appreciate the work or ourselves and others, is the first step in being mindful. Displaying acts of praise can combine our emotional intelligence to mindfulness and can lift the heart of any soul. Showing gratitude can also have a positive effect that can inspire colleagues to improve their performance on the next task.

Until we become more mindful and combine it with an act of emotional intelligence, we may miss out on truly appreciating our work life. It can make for a happier and healthier work environment, creating positive collaboration, improved communication and integration of work between all departments. We are all responsible for connecting these two vital elements that can pave the way for success in relationships and businesses. Its effects can have the added benefit of filtering into our personal lives and creating a positive change there also.

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Dealing With Failure

Dealing With Failure

At some point in our lives we have all experienced a sense of failure. Failure on getting a call for that interview, securing a job that will provide a much needed income, exams, performance targets, diet and fitness goals etc. It can be extremely painful and take us a long time to recover. It can be like somebody whips off a really stuck plaster on a wound, which can hurt even more than the first wound.

We all know that there are many bumps in the road, mountains to climb and hurdles to overcome. Sometimes life just doesn’t seem fair. We may even think; why me? We may look at our friends or neighbours and think they are so lucky, but remember ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’. Nobody gets away scot-free!

So, is there a secret cure to recovery quickly after failure? There are many ways to handle the feeling better and seeking out approaches that work is a good start to help with moving on or re-frame an experience beyond calling it or ourselves a failure.  There are many approaches and as we are all different and recover at different paces finding one that fits is a process of self-discovery.  We all handle setbacks or failures differently. We must remember that we have survived many failures in the past, and rebounded from them, and we will deal with and recover from this one too. All that is needed is a little time to reflect and a chance to lick our wounds. Some tips to soothe the soul and restore our faith could include:

  • –  The key is to be gentle with ourselves.
  • –  Don’t take it personally. The incident/result did not pan out the way we thought it would.
  • –  Seek supportive networks to help heal the mental and emotional pain, to restore our spirit. Take any valuable insights during this phase to help in future endeavours.
  • –  If needed, get mad and release any frustrations – in a safe way. Workout the pain through physical exercise, such as walking, running, boxing, etc.
  • –  Accept the situation, and then move forward one step at a time.
  • –  Push outside the ‘safety-blanket’ in gradual steps at first, until life once again springs a step back in our walk to leap again.
  • –  Count the blessings that we currently behold, and be appreciative of them.
  • –  Acknowledge that there are plenty of other opportunities, when we are ready to get up and try again.

Sometimes our failures can teach us a lesson. (Though at the time we may just have wanted the results) They can also show us that maybe this opportunity just wasn’t for us. Although, it is only when we are much further down the road in life that we recognise this insight, and then we are thankful. Our personal failures can also be instrumental in helping others on their journey too. Sharing our story and experience, at a later date, with others who face a similar dilemma of failure can help them to overcome their hurdles and climb their mountains.

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