Dealing With Failure

Dealing With Failure

At some point in our lives we have all experienced a sense of failure. Failure on getting a call for that interview, securing a job that will provide a much needed income, exams, performance targets, diet and fitness goals etc. It can be extremely painful and take us a long time to recover. It can be like somebody whips off a really stuck plaster on a wound, which can hurt even more than the first wound.

We all know that there are many bumps in the road, mountains to climb and hurdles to overcome. Sometimes life just doesn’t seem fair. We may even think; why me? We may look at our friends or neighbours and think they are so lucky, but remember ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’. Nobody gets away scot-free!

So, is there a secret cure to recovery quickly after failure? There are many ways to handle the feeling better and seeking out approaches that work is a good start to help with moving on or re-frame an experience beyond calling it or ourselves a failure.  There are many approaches and as we are all different and recover at different paces finding one that fits is a process of self-discovery.  We all handle setbacks or failures differently. We must remember that we have survived many failures in the past, and rebounded from them, and we will deal with and recover from this one too. All that is needed is a little time to reflect and a chance to lick our wounds. Some tips to soothe the soul and restore our faith could include:

  • –  The key is to be gentle with ourselves.
  • –  Don’t take it personally. The incident/result did not pan out the way we thought it would.
  • –  Seek supportive networks to help heal the mental and emotional pain, to restore our spirit. Take any valuable insights during this phase to help in future endeavours.
  • –  If needed, get mad and release any frustrations – in a safe way. Workout the pain through physical exercise, such as walking, running, boxing, etc.
  • –  Accept the situation, and then move forward one step at a time.
  • –  Push outside the ‘safety-blanket’ in gradual steps at first, until life once again springs a step back in our walk to leap again.
  • –  Count the blessings that we currently behold, and be appreciative of them.
  • –  Acknowledge that there are plenty of other opportunities, when we are ready to get up and try again.

Sometimes our failures can teach us a lesson. (Though at the time we may just have wanted the results) They can also show us that maybe this opportunity just wasn’t for us. Although, it is only when we are much further down the road in life that we recognise this insight, and then we are thankful. Our personal failures can also be instrumental in helping others on their journey too. Sharing our story and experience, at a later date, with others who face a similar dilemma of failure can help them to overcome their hurdles and climb their mountains.

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